“As a child my Mum said I was very easy to feed.”
“What changed?” one of my peers sarcastically asked, trying to make a joke.
Nothing has changed. The difference is I value for what I pay for, with the money I earn with hard work, more.
I don’t consider myself as fussy. When I go to my friend’s house, my parents’ house, or wherever where I get people cooking me my meals as a favour (this includes my own husband), as their way of hospitality, as a nice thing to do, I eat what I get given on the plate. I feel thankful, I don’t kick up a fuss.
But when I pay $7 for a two minute cup noodles in the airplane and the person who makes it goes way over the water pour line and makes my food bland, I don’t like it.
When I buy a $17 plate of schnitzel for lunch and it comes smothering in sauce (despite nothing in the menu indicates so), I cringe. I would have asked for sauce on the side. What’s the best part of eating schnitzel? The crispy crumb. And nope I did not get that.
When I ask for no peanuts on my pad thai yet I get peanuts on it. With $15 a pop. Don’t I have the right to be ‘fussy’ and not liking my meal?
I can be ‘fussy’ as most of the time I cook my own meals, thank you very much. The times when I don’t pay for the meals I don’t kick up a fuss about what I like or dislike. And when I pay for those meals and get disappointed, or simply get served bad meals, or go to an Asian eatery to find an absolute bastarised version of a dish that I grew up with (sorry Indonesians and Koreans, gado-gado salad with kimchi does exist) do I then lose my right to not like it in order to conform, and be a kinder member of society rather than be labelled as ‘fussy’?
I have a right to not like tomatoes in my burger. I don’t ask you to take them off my burgers when I myself forget to ask it off.
I have a right to not like ice cream on my waffles. I paid for my waffles AND always ask nicely to have it on the side.
I have a right to not want to eat chicken thighs on my meal. Because a) I almost always cook my own chicken meals and b) when we eat out I always, always ask the cut of meat they use and/or ask for breast only.
The list goes on.
Leave me alone. I don’t ask people to pay for my food — let alone cook it for free.